Why do we always associate someone not wanting us, a job not hiring us, or a friend who just doesn’t want to be friends anymore, to be a form of rejection that can demoralize us?
I personally have been stung many times. I’ve been rejected from climbing the football ladder, rejected from different jobs, promotions and bonuses, and rejected in relationships and friendships. In the moment, we tend to ask ‘why?’ many times. It can build insecurities in us; a feeling that we’re not good enough. I do know one thing. Those feelings are only natural; allowing them to stick though, well, that’s a choice. I’ve never let it hold me down.
It can be a temporary downer, but belief in yourself is what gets you over the bump and allows you to stay your course. Here is the revelation I heard recently: Rejection has nothing to do with your worth, but has everything to do with incompatibility. This brings such a new perspective on the aspect of ‘rejection’.
Many guests on #ABtalks tell me their life stories; they tell me how they were told ‘no’ so many times, and those noes became yeses. Those noes fed them, drove them, inspired them to push forward against all odds, and made things happen.
When I was told ‘no’, like all of us, I became vulnerable. But guess what? That’s when my creativity and resilience soared. I speak about this to normalise that a happy ending doesn’t come without many rejections. When it is normalised and accepted as part of growth and part of life, at any age, it softens the blow and allows you to see things clearly and helps you assess it better.
A token of my appreciation from me to you: Know your worth, stay your course, and never give up.
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