How to be nice online
As a result of his viral Twitter pep talks, in which he offers compliments to strangers, Josh Gondelman, a writer on Desus & Mero, has earned a reputation as one of the most genuinely kind people on the Internet.
He just published Nice Try: Stories of Best Intentions and Mixed Results, a collection of touching essays about the ups and downs of trying to do right by others. We sought Gondelman’s advice on how to stay afloat when...
You stumble across a colleague on a dating app.
I would swipe right, then say, “lol see you at work!”
You’re scrolling six months back in someone’s Instagram posts and you accidentally like one.
Here’s my move (I don’t know if this is nice—it’s more ass-covering): I will then, from that point, scroll forward toward the present and sporadically double-tap. It’s more understandable if it’s someone you just met and just followed on Instagram, like, “Oh, cool! This is what they’ve been up to the last six months.”
Someone shares fake news
I usually reach out if it’s super fake. You can take it offline so that people don’t feel embarrassed. I think that’s actually nonconfrontational, and I would want that too. You’d want someone to say, “Oh, that’s a hoax!” That’s maybe a little awkward to tell someone, but you don’t want to hang them out to dry.